The Ultimate Guide To Bad Habits That Limit Your Success (and How to To Overcome Them

You tell yourself that you have given it your best shot.

And it hasn’t worked.

You have tried to lose weight but all the advice you have followed has not produced a shred of evidence that you are on the right track.

The business idea you tried to implement was too complicated and people did not understand.

And when you get home there is other stuff that demands your time.

The kids need to be fed and helped with their homework by the time you are done with these there is hardly any time left to concentrate on your business.

Maybe God has a different plan for you. Better to pivot whilst you still have time.

You know you can do better and want to do better.

But you are swamped.

What Is The Reality?

If truth be told, you are not doing everything to change your situation.

Reading a motivational book isn’t enough.

Attending a seminar will not do it.

Writing down the vision isn’t enough.

Thinking about it will not manifest it into existence despite what others may say.

There is a difference between thinking about something and doing it.

Most of us think ourselves to exhaustion and somehow we manage to equate that activity with the activity of doing it in the real world.

This results in a number of bad habits that snowball into failure.

Luckily for you there are easy techniques you can use to overcome the bad habits.

#1 Failure To commit

A long while ago, a great warrior faced a situation which made it necessary for him to make a decision which insured his success on the battlefield. He was about to send his armies against a powerful foe, whose men outnumbered his own. He loaded his soldiers into boats, sailed to the enemy’s country, unloaded soldiers and equipment, then gave the order to burn the ships that had carried them.

Addressing his men before the first battle, he said, “You see the boats going up in smoke. That means that we cannot leave these shores alive unless we win! We now have no choice—we win, or we perish! They won.

Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to burn his ships and cut all sources of retreat. Only by so doing can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a burning desire to win, essential to success.”

-Napoleon Hill in Think & Grow Rich

For ten years I have dabbled in different industries like recruitment and hospitality not because I loved them but because I needed money.

The result was a dead end.

I got way off the mark with my goals because my focus was scattered.

I wanted to be a writer for as long as I could remember but I have never made a serious commitment.

I made excuse for not applying and improving my craft.

And I have suffered for it. I wasted a good part of a decade living other people’s dreams.

It wasn’t until that I was chasing failure that I began to appreciate my gift.

It might not be considered as great as other careers but this is my gift and it is up to me to make sure that I commit to becoming the best I can be so that when opportunities present themselves I will be equipped to exploit them.

I have cut all sources of retreat and am diligently reading and gathering knowledge by attending seminars and learning from others.

In order to commit you need to focus on what’s important to you. Consider the cost of not doing what you are supposed to be doing.

When fear or doubt arise, remember why you are doing what you are doing.

#2 Despising Your Gift

I watched my friend as he shifted the gears of his luxurious SUV.

I had been visiting with his family for the afternoon. He was driving me back to sister’s house.

I was awestruck by the changes that had occurred over the past nine years.

I could not believe that we had been in the same class at college.

To be honest it was hard not feeling inferior or envious.

He was far ahead.

I wondered what I had done wrong. I convinced myself that everyone had been right, this writing thing was foolishness.

Why had I failed to succeed?


Jos 18:1  And the whole congregation of the children of Israel assembled together at Shiloh, and set up the tabernacle of the congregation there. And the land was subdued before them.

Jos 18:2  And there remained among the children of Israel seven tribes, which had not yet received their inheritance.

Jos 18:3  And Joshua said unto the children of Israel, How long are ye slack to go to possess the land, which the LORD God of your fathers hath given you?

My friend was not working in an industry that could be considered exclusive. But he was excelling all the same.

As he drove, he was chatting and I mumbled replies. I was too consumed by the question of how he had done it.

I don’t know whether he noticed it but I was totally crushed.

When he dropped me off I could not wait to get out of his presence.

I got into the house and headed straight for bed despite the fact that it was a searing afternoon.

As I lay sweating under the blankets a lot of thoughts came to me I wondered if he was involved in criminal activity.

But I erased that thought. I played out many scenarios of how he had prospered whilst I wallowed in poverty.

Finally, I had to accept that my friend was a go getter. He knew what he wanted and he used the skills he had to get it.

As for me the desire to write bestsellers like Sidney Sheldon and Robert Ludlum had never pushed me to act.

I had never applied myself to the act of writing.

I let other people make the conclusion that it was a fool’s errand.

So I believed their words and it became my excuse.

I could not make writing work because was irrelevant and that there were too many failed writers.

I would just add to the pile.  My time at a “failed” publishing start-up provided evidence that they were correct.

Every year I watched as my dreams evaporated and I wondered why things were not working out.

Why was I stagnant whilst my peers had moved ahead?

But the truth was that I did not use what God had given me. My time was spent working in other industries (which is not bad because we need to survive and also get money to finance our dreams)

I did not work to improve the gift. I spent more time thinking thought about writing than improving my craft.

Although I had over 30 unfinished manuscripts, I was slack about working on to produce a final product.

The results from a gift take time to realize. Do not be discouraged.

Getting to your vision might not go in a straight line. Adjust but keep moving ahead.

#3 Fear Of People

I was standing outside a shopping Centre in the company of my friend when one of his friends came over and they started talking.

My friend is a doctor (Just threw that in there for context).

Anyway they were having a conversation about their careers, families and “smoothness” of life.

I was quite content to be ignored but I knew the question would come, the question always comes.

So my mind tried to engineer an answer that would sound clever when the dreaded question came.

From the corner of my eyes I saw my friend’s colleague scanning me every couple of seconds.

This prompted my friend to introduce us.

And inevitably the question was thrown my way: “What do you do? Are you a doctor too?”

My mind betrayed me and instead of sounding suave I gave a long rambling answer about my lack of professional title.

I could never imagine telling someone that I am a writer.

Unimpressed, the guy switched his focus back to my friend.

Psa 119:72  The law of thy mouth is better unto me than thousands of gold and silver.

Psa 119:73  JOD. Thy hands have made me and fashioned me: give me understanding, that I may learn thy commandments.

Psa 119:74  They that fear thee will be glad when they see me; because I have hoped in thy word.


I never held my head high when declaring that I am a writer (If I ever declared that).

The years of propaganda at school, friends and within family that a person has to sit in an office in order to be accomplished was working well.

Anything in the creative industry is equated with death, poverty and immorality (not without good reason though).

So I learnt not to give a straight answer when asked about what I did.

I was afraid of people and never realized that failure to confess that I am a writer was having a destructive effect on me as I was losing confidence in my abilities.

#4 Poor Time Management

Another one of my friends had developed the bulge, he was complaining about always being tired.

So I suggested that he go to the gym.

“I can’t go to the gym, it’s too expensive,” he mumbled in between bites of a cheese burger and slurps of his fizzy drink.

“You don’t have to go to gym, you can do it at home,” I countered.

“I do not have time between my job, family and school, I’m always tired and I need to relax.”

I wanted to scream “Dude you spend over twelve hours bingeing on television a week and you can’t sacrifice 1 hour of that?” But I kept my silence


Ecc 3:1  To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

Ecc 3:2  A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

Ecc 3:3  A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;

Ecc 3:4  A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

Ecc 3:6  A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

Ecc 3:7  A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

In one way or another we all complain about the time we do not have enough time.

But most of us are mismanaging the time we have.

We are not focused on priorities.

#5 Procrastination

“Come on buddy, relax we can do that tomorrow.”

“Yah guess you are right, we have already done a lot today.” I mused as I shut down the laptop and switched on the television.

That’s the type conversation I would have with myself when I did not want to do any work.

I would let my mind convince me that I was working too hard.

Pro_18:9 He also that is slothful in his work is brother to him that is a great waster.


But all I was wasting time and deferring actions that I needed to take in order to complete my work.

Excuses will help you defer your dreams until the day you die.

#6 Never Standing Your Ground

The teacher and the students helping her were busy wrapping prizes for end of year’s awards ceremony.

A thin boy coyly snuck into the room.

He was asked what he wanted.

He informed the teacher that she had made a mistake when announcing the end of year award recipients.

He was not only a recipient of the class prize but the overall prize for his grade.

The teacher responded harshly and said she knew that and told him to get out.

He scampered out but he was happy that he had stood his ground.

The next day he was given the prizes he had worked for.

Eph 6:13  Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

Some of us take abuse and mistreatment and we never stand up for ourselves or for our dreams.

We accept defeat and failure as our lot.

When pursuing a dream you need to stand your ground because a lot of challenges will come your way.

#7 Poor Health habits

Remember my friend with the bulge?

He has so many dreams but I wonder where he is going to get the energy and time to take achieve them when he is not taking care of his health.

Many people are finding that they are in the same boat as my friend.

We have the following bad habits

  • Lack of sleep.
  • Too much sleep.
  • Eating and drinking unhealthy food.
  • Lack of exercise.

This is not an exhaustive list.

3Jn_1:2  Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.


These bad behaviors steal time and finances from us.

They are success inhibitors.

The Three Step Strategy I Used to Overcome Bad Habits

  1. Read the word of God as it will enable you renew your mind and that is important for transformation. Changing your thought patterns will enable you to see yourself in a completely new light. Find scriptures that speak about the habit and those that highlight the opposite. This will encourage you during moments when you want to give up or when you do not feel motivated.
  1. Substitution: Instead of watching TV or spend hours chatting with people dedicate 20-30 minutes to exercise (small steps). Exercise does not have to involve the gym. There are many exercises that you can do at home. It is important that you find something to do so that you have something to fall back on when you find yourself bored or stressed.
  1. Commit to action. Compel yourself to act, the bible says that we should give it every effort as we have an example in Christ.

Heb 12:2  Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. Heb 12:3  For consider him that endured…, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds. Heb 12:4  Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin.

Some of us are just lazy because we give up yet have not demonstrated any effort that would make us “sweat blood” to achieve success. It will take effort to drag yourself from your current state. I had to fight against my nature to take the bold steps that will lead me to the realization of my dream.

It’s Up To You

Yes, you deserve to be successful.

Your dream is great, magnificent and thee world should be blessed by it.

Your efforts must pay off.

The question is do you have the will to “sweat blood” to see manifest.

If you do then nothing is impossible.

It’s up to you!

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